I hear on occasions when discussing the lifestyle with Christians, a disappointing answer to a question that I always ask.
How often does your husband/wife tells you that he/she loves you? The sad part of this dialog is I hear things like, "she knows I love her so I don't have to say it". OR "he doesn't say it as often as I would like, but he is not big on the mushy stuff".
This is important... you can never tell your spouse that you love them too many times. It is impossible. Every morning, "I love you". End of every phone call. Before you go to bed at night. Every moment when you have nothing else to say, pause and say "I love you". Say it with words and not gestures. 2 dozen roses may tell me that my husband loves me, but it will never, ever replace the words.
So stop reading Reddit for a moment, find your spouse or significant other and say, "I love you".
Thank you for telling us more about yourselves. I understand the being exhausted part and the impact it can have on your sex-drive and sex-life. Been there and got that.
It's really good that you are taking baby-steps. Getting to know the lifestyle world. I know couples and have played with couples that are only soft-swap. In fact, one couple I play with regularly, she doesn't want to do intercourse but is a champion at oral (both on men and women) and that is a LOT of pleasurable fun!
Keep posting about your journey, I love hearing about it. And if you are ever in Las Vegas, let me know!
Just remember that God loves you, Christ died for us, God made you perfectly with a way to experience a wonderful wonderful sexual journey. Sadly as with all parts of life, there are good and bad people, it is our mandate from Christ to be the high ground, to show respect and Christian values while enjoying a sexually liberating lifestyle.
That's really an interesting way to put it, "us against the world". May I ask you to tell us more about yourselves and how you got into the lifestyle?
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That is so lovely to hear! I am the same way as your wife, my husband talks way more than I do. I am more of a listener. But I am also a writer so I tend to get everything out that way. Just keep telling her, never stop. And don't do it just as you leave in the morning. Tell her right now. Get up and tell her you love her! Its the time when its unexpected that often mean more to me. I might be having issues at work and to hear it out of the blue, a random text, it means so much to me. And when we are playing. While odd, we tell each other we love each other while we are playing with others.