Those of you who are in the lifestyle, recognize the problem issues when you see them. Some people think that we are all committing adultery, sex is a sin, et al. That we are without morals and are out there fucking everyone (and in some cases everything).

But that isn't the case. Our standards of behavior translate from the vanilla life to the recreational sex life. For example, I am not going to a bar when my husband is out of town because I am horny and want to get laid. I won't play with someone who I know or suspect is intentionally cheating on their spouse. My husband and I make all lifestyle decisions together. We participate in all things together. We insist on same-room swap with no hall passes. When we are having recreational sex with others, we are always there together.

I could right a 10 page article on the ways we view the lifestyle from a Christian perspective and what behaviors we consider acceptable and what we do not accept. The last example is fraudulent behavior that seems to happen all too often where we think we are meeting a couple for the first time and only the guys shows up and tries to convince us its not his fault, his wife is sick but we should still go off and play.

I am sure that those who are Christians in the lifestyle could contribute easily to my start here. I can think of a LOT of examples of behaviors we won't do as a Christian and many of them carry over to our vanilla life.