So there is a question, pros and cons, and the honest assessment (verses picture) of the lifestyle.

For me, it has hugely improved my sexual experiences. For those sitting on the fence it took be several YEARS to decide that I wanted to put a toe in the water. Part of how we learn to enjoy sex is based on so many human factors. You have to get over the stigmas that society, religion, government, and education planted in our brains as we grew up, matured, and remain bombarded with to this day. I can offer a couple examples.

The first is the physical one. Yes I could orgasm, but it was sadly very rare. Through the lifestyle both I and my husband learned and one of the results is weekly, sometimes daily, even hourly a few times, I have orgasms! And the intensity has gone off the charts. I had to learn this.

The second was a spiritual journey. The realization of this amazing gift that God has given us to enjoy (and be good at) sex. I realize more than ever (and this isn't really about the lifestyle), that my Savior loves me, I can love my Savior, that his commandment is to treat others as we would want to be treated, and to share the Gospel. I am still learning.

The third is a societal experience. I have so many wonderful friends. They are all over the world. We have broke bread, drank wine, slept in the same bed, and had very intimate and engaging sexual experiences with each other. I learned how not to judge, how to invite friendships into my life, and how to cherish all of my life experiences and God's gifts that go with them... enable them... and provides for them.

So Pros and Cons...

That's a big issue and really a subject for another post in the future. Some of the pros I have documented above, but that is a fraction of all of the ways that these experiences have impacted my life and the joy that they have given me. The Cons - some minor - those that lie, the frauds, the cheats, the people that are only in it for themselves, those that use others, those willing to hurt others. Its no different than the rest of the lives we lead as Christians. We avoid the bad dark places and try our best to walk in the sun. To never push anyone into a dark place and to lift others to walk in the sun with us. We often give more than we take. This can sum up the pros and cons.