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Testing the waters
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Wife and I are hoping to test the waters and see where things take us. Can anyone provide some suggestions for first timers? We want to try a club we can dance and hang out at but not sure that’s the best start. Ideas appreciated!
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Oddly, I often discourage the concept of "Testing the Waters". Having hosted more lifestyle parties than I can possibly count AND understand the guilt and shame that may creep into all of this, you have to remember that you cannot "undo" having sex with someone other than your partners OR un-see your partner having a mind crushing orgasm with someone other than yourself.
So my council is:
- Pray on it.
- Talk about it in an honest loving way.
- Agree upon your boundaries.
- If you do set up to the water, its ok to put a toe in and nothing more. You can watch. You can meet and talk to people. And not have sex with anyone other than each other. And trust me, when my husband and I got home from our first lifestyle party, where we did not have sex, when we hit the bedroom - oh baby... it was on!
- Understand - there are more bad clubs than good clubs. There are couples at some parties who love "new meat". Be very careful. Be very smart.
- Goes to well established clubs.
Kisses!
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Sadly you have to be very careful. Some areas are great, lots of wonderful clubs in Texas. Here in Vegas, there are 16 clubs and out of them, there are only 4, arguably 5 and the rest are rip-offs, outright scams, and a couple escort run parties. So always check the reviews.
When you do find a club, ask questions such; is nudity required, are you required to play, is the club newbie friendly, etc.