Okay, so kind of splitting off a couple other discussions, can we discuss some specifics? Sorry if it seems like I'm flogging a dead horse... but I'm really struggling.

All the different translations I've seen are pretty much equivalent. This is the ESV.

1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: "It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman."

2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.

4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

6 Now as a concession, not a command, I say this.

7 I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.

8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.