So wife and I been happily married for over 35 years, great sex and communication in every aspect of our lives. Now that we are 60 yet in pretty good shape and she is still very sexy we are talking about bucket list issues. Through the years ( many) I’ve expressed my desire to share her sexually, recently she has been very open to this. We’ve talked about boundaries etc and know what we want and would do. Finding a 3rd is crazy at least for our standards, she’s not into apps because it’s all horny dudes just looking to fuck, she wants not a relationship with the 3rd but to have a sense respect and intimacy . More like making love with an added man. Advice on to find such a unicorn? Are there swingers couples where only the husband plays? Appreciate serious responses