It would be extremely interesting to hear what were the key points within your marriage that happened (and maybe a bit about the timeline). Also some background information would be nice!

For us:

Married for 15 years, two kids, active in church. Both from ”legalistic” old school backgrounds. No sex before marriage etc. Shy and introvert wife who is not very comfortable on talking about sex.

-I have been interested to share my wife for almost all of the marriage, but afraid to say anything

-For the past 5 years I have let my wife know that I like when other men watch her and couraged to use sexy clothes

-Some semi-public sex from time to time. Also other small kinks, like anal and some bondage.

-This year I have told my wife that the idea of other men having sex with her turns me on. Big step. Though she still sees it ”only” fantasy. No discussion afterward though she seemed okay with the fantasy.

Next steps? I don’t know, I don’t want to push. But maybe:

-Admit to my wife that it is not only recent fantasy but something that I have dreamt on for all of our marriage but hasn’t said anything because it is something that is not supposed to be forced on, but it is good for her to know.

-Some theological soul searching on how I have found that bible seems to be totally okay with this and how I ended up thinking like that.

-She has never watched porn. If I would find a good way to introduce her to porn that would be a great way to show some sensual mfm videos that would maybe plant good ideas to her.

-Sex in front of others for example in nude beach.

It would be nice to hear how everything happened with you! I know that ”your mileage may vary” and my intention is not to learn how to convince my wife or anything. Just out of curiosity!