Posting to see what thoughts this community might have on this subject or scenario in looking for a future spouse.
Is it more advisable to find a partner (be it boyfriend or girlfriend) who is already into swinging before getting married? Or to get married with someone you’re compatible with and would be happy with alone, and if they turn out to be open to swinging as your marriage deepens then that’s just an awesome bonus?
I don’t want to bog down the post with my own personal situation, but if anyone is additionally willing to read about that in the comments section and offer their thoughts, I’d be grateful. Thanks!
I could write a book on this one simple topic.
Sex lasts a short period of time. A fraction of your life is spent having sex. The man or woman you sleep next to every night is the 99.9% of your life. So I would never advise to anyone that a requirement of finding a mate be accepting of the lifestyle.
All of the above under consideration, I do believe that sexual compatibility is an important requirement for determining a lifelong mate, so it is an important criteria in looking for a mate.
I hate it when I hear people say that the sex was great before marriage and then after you got married, or had a child, or felt the stress of raising a family and suddenly sex ended. For something we spend very little time participating in, this can sure have a way of destroying a marriage.
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Thank you for the reply. For our parents generation, sex was so taboo of a topic that it seemed ok to neglect it. But as you state, there is so many ways that sex, romance, affection, intimacy can enhance any relationship at any age.
I see first hand observations of this all of the time. Last weekend at a lifestyle club, I met a lovely couple in their 70s (but they did not look it). Sex was important to them in their marriage. It helped them to stay fit, and it was clear that they still had the drive going. It was also equally clear how much they loved each other and were committed to each other.
Thank you for your post!