It should go without saying that I approach this from a Christian perspective. This post is intended to prepare you for a first Recreational Sex encounter.

I am going to start off with an off-topic point that needs to be made. I get asked a lot about or I am lectured on the topic of it being different for couples verses singles. Some will argue that once you say "I do" then you "don't". I take the approach of Boolean logic. Either I am wrong or I am right about my views on sexuality in the lifestyle. I believe I am right and if wrong, I know God will forgive me.

Now that we have that out of the way. This "checklist" is covers both men and women, and couples and singles. It is slanted toward the needs of couples - so you solos out there can skip some of this.

1. Ready? Are you personally ready for this? Sex comes with strong emotions sometimes, can you keep a possible sexual encounter in perspective? If not, you are not ready.
2. Objective? With this there are two topics. I am going to address the solos first. Do not go there with the intention of finding a future wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend. I could write a book on this topic.As for couples, this is more about having sex there or not having sex there. Sex with each other or sex with others. I strongly suggest that you go with the understanding that you won't have sex with someone other than your spouse. Watching is fine, in fact it can be very sexy. Even being exhibitionist is fine - have sex with your spouse and let other's watch. Jumping into the deep end of the pool - never a wise idea. Don't jump into deep water until you know how to swim, what the water temperature is like, is it safe to swim in that pool...
3. Hygiene! Take a shower. Use deodorant. Wear clean clothes! Change your underwear before you go. Guys, please step into the bathroom and wipe that penis off, I don't like the twang flavor.
4. Dress Sexy! Or at least appealing. This is easier for the ladies. I can recommend lots of online stores for cocktail or clubbing attire - both common. Guys, listen to your wife. If there is an outfit that she likes to see you in, then other women will too.
5. Get There at the Start! Most couples I talk to do not want to be the first there. But that can be a VERY good thing. Let the host or club owner know in advance. Ask for a slow and complete tour of the club. Ask questions. Get to know others as they arrive. I make a point to notice who arrives and if it is there first time visiting a new club that I am also visiting for the first time. A killer ice breaker is "I noticed this is your first time here, its' ours (mine) as well".
6. BYOC! You read that right - it's BYOC not BYOB. Safe sex is important. Many couples will not play without a condom
7. Dance! When was the last time you and your partner danced. Got a favorite song, most of the DJs will play requests.
8. Dance Sexy! Do not be afraid of flashing, bumping, grinding your partner. An awesome goal is to turn each other on while on the dance floor!
9. Minimize Liquid Courage! Don't bring your favorite cocktails beverages. They go down too easy. IT IS VERY EASY TO OVERINDULGE in the nervous energy that will surround your first visit into a sexually charged environment. I suggest that you measure your amount of alcohol in advance. Bring a pint instead of a fifth. Or bring prepackaged beverages such as a 6 pack of your favorite beer or hard seltzer.
10. Comfort Zone! Always discuss in advance your comfort zone and agree not to cross the limit. If a couple wants to full swap and one of the two of you does not, then simply tell them you are flattered and interested, but not ready as a couple yet to participate in full swap.
    

And always have your safe word. That word that if either of you feels out of your comfort zone, threatened, scared, or any other negative vibe, that if said. You both head for the exit, get into transportation and when you get home - then discuss.