POST #2

You had asked for help and I sort of gave you a lecture. Sorry about that, I just wanted you to understand things from a woman's perspective.

So how would I approach this discussion with her?

1. Honey [baby, love, your favorite ditty], I love you.
2. We have talked about recreational sex with others.
3. You know that it turns me on to think about you have sex with others.
4. I promise I won't push this or make this an issue in our marriage, but I would like to know your true feelings about this.
5. THEN LISTEN and DO NOT DEBATE. Just Listen. Trust me, this is an very critical part of this. If she decide to move forward, she will want to know that you are listening to her needs and concerns at all times. Trust is critical.
   

If she says she wants to do it. DO NOT push time frames.

For your first adventure, do not do it with an online hookup. You are taking a huge risk with the love of your life. Go to a party or club that allows single men. Let her chat with a few face-to-face. If yourself the chance to decide if he is safe for your wife. You both have a decision to make before you go back to the playroom for a MMF adventure.

Hope this helps you!

Blessings on your day.

She is your wife and if you are both lucky enough to have the love of your life as a spouse, then it won't be about time or being ready. She knows how you feel, do you think being repetitive about it will help? She is conflicted. She loves you, and yet she for reasons known only to her is not ready for this. You also have to accept that she may never be ready for this. Sex is more complex for women than for men, much of the time.

We attended our first lifestyle party and we just watched. We enjoyed the party and the vibe, so we started to go to several parties and clubs on the weekends for about 6 months and just watched. I was lucky, I told my husband that I wanted to take things slowly and he respected that. In month 7, we were watching a couple that was so hot and sexy, I could not take it anymore. We found a play area and I fucked my husband's brains out. I was SO HORNY! So for the next 6 months we would go to the club and we would often have sex there. After that we started to have sex in the group room, just the two of us still. That was insanely hot for me knowing others were watching me.

Over this time period, we got to know dozens of very sexy couples and made some great friends, a few even went with us to Mavericks, Cowboy and Rangers games. One night I ask the wife of one of these couples if they wanted to play. The shock on my husband's face was worth the wait for me.

The point is. Don't push it. I know you want to do this, your wife knows you want to do this. You wife is more important than the sex, so be patient and she will likely come around. And let get to know people first. Many women do not like the random hook-up (and some do of course).

One more post to come...