It's 2023, and I have gotten to know many of you a lot better. I have spent time posing questions on DM trying to find out what most people seem to want to discuss this year. I have created a list to start with, feel free to add to it.
There are major themes with this subreddit that are important to a lot of people.
- Is swinging a sin? Will it keep me from heaven?
- How can you claim to be a Christian and a Swinger?
- Will swinging destroy my marriage?
- How do you get started swinging?
- How does swinging work?
- What is the unwritten (and sometimes written) protocols of the lifestyle?
- What if I want to Swing and my spouse does not?
- How do I get my spouse interested in swinging?
- And lots of questions about sex...
So armed with this and whatever else you all add below, I will begin more regular postings about these subjects. If it is a series of posts, I will add a Word Reference and colon so you know that there is more than one posts coming for that topic.
Another topic for 2023 is the dialog of doctrine. Doctrine is a codification of beliefs, a body of teachings or instructions, taught principles or positions, and interpretation of scripture (and sometimes translation there of), of a set of beliefs. There are tens of thousands of Christian doctrines so many in fact that every resident could have their own individual Church. So for the sake of argument, what would it look like if Christians who practice recreational sex had their own doctrine? What would that be? This is something that I plan to explore this year.
So what say you? What should we dialog about this year!
The goal is to keep your recreational sex within the bounds of Christian behaviors. This is very hard for Christians conceptually because they were taught that sex is sin, perhaps the worst sin aside of murder.
The problem with some doing the HotWife thing is the wife doesn't get a vote. She lays there and everyone gets a turn with her. Some women do like this, but it can easily turn disrespectful very quickly.
I am not a fan personally in terms of my sexual tastes for gangbangs and HotWife. I have done it and it seems disengaging. What I mean by that is when I am having sex with you I want it to be pleasurable for the both of us. I want to show you my sexual skills and I want you to bring your best game to the table as well.
Now I do love a MMF and on a rare occasion, MMMF and I will do the "air tight" thing in a MMMF play time. But for the most part, I like one-on-one and two-on-one at the most. And that can be MMF or MFF, I am down for either one!
I have coached many a couple who want to do the HotWife thing and here is one rule I put into place. If you want to be a male in the room, the first time you attend, you have to sit there, not play, watch and behave yourself. If you can do that, then you earn the Golden Ticket that gets you into future HotWife events. This way your wife can participate in the decision to be the focal point of a HotWife event.
As for getting very turned on watching your spouse have sex. I love watching my husband have sex and he loves watching me have sex.
And Christ was not judgmental. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
By SDA did you mean Seventh Day Adventists? If so, the answer would be yes.
I grew up Catholic. My husband was a member of a Lutheran Church and a SDA Church as his parents were each part of the dominations. So for him it was Bible Study on Wednesday in the Lutheran Church, Sabbath School on Saturdays, and the occasional Sunday at the Lutheran Church.
When we married we decided that the family Church would be Lutheran and we sent our children to Lutheran School K-8 as I was brought up in the Catholic School K-8.
We have encountered many religions in the lifestyle, including SDA.
Home is in Nevada. But I and We travel a fair amount.
Many people feel the same. I know couples where the lifestyle truly enhanced their marriage, others where it saved or prolonged their marriage, but also, and sadly, a very few number of couples where it ended their marriage. But in those cases, the marriage was already on a slippery slope.
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I would like to believe that the Flower Children in Christ's ear on this earth where amongst Christ's followers. Many of the values professed during the hippie ear was very Christ like. To love one and other, to treat others with love and respect.
Though I caution you, the hotwife culture is something you need to be careful with. Your wife is the most precious thing you have, don't squander it.
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