We all set about having New Year's Resolutions.

Be a better Christian and witness for Christ. Appreciate every moment that I can with my spouse. This year I want to lose that 5 lbs that is making my jeans too tight. I want to lower our monthly bills. I will strive to keep my house cleaner. I am going to get the Australian Sheppard puppy into a dog trainer before he eats all my lingerie. I want to spend more time with the family. I want my business to grow. I have a a dozen resolutions that I would like to do in 2023.

Then there is the "Sexual New Year's Resolution". I want to do is become more in tune with my sexuality, my sexual unions with my husband, and become more creative with my shared recreational sex. This includes an exploration over the past five years of how my faith integrates with my sexual norms. Work on my insecurities, unwarranted guilt, confusion, and repressions.

So when I bring this up with others, I hear "Why?", "are you not having great sex already?" The answer is "yes, I am having great sex" - and I feel so blessed that each year, I find new sexual adventures. In terms of how open I am sexually, I would put myself near the top. I am comfortable at parties, leery around strangers, open to new sexual adventures, and excited that we get a fresh start with everything each year.

Oh and I wish I would have worked out over Christmas instead of going full on mercenary with Christmas cookies that I baked (I love to bake at Christmas).

So my Sexual New Year's Resolution is the same as last year, and the year before that, and perhaps every year going back a decade or so. I want to enjoy sex. I want others to enjoy having sex with me. I want to give my husband amazing sexual adventures. I want to have new and creative sexual adventures. And I want to better understand how being a Christian, perfectly made by an ever-loving God, and my gender, and my view of sex, and my power created by sex, and my emotions during sex all fit together.

Why?

Sex is very important to human relationships. Sex is the most powerful human interaction possible. It's why some marriages & relationships succeed while others fail. It can great incredibly strong emotional bonds and it can destroy lives. Yet some people, at their own emotional peril ignore this.

"I am bored having sex with my spouse."
"Sex is such a bother, I would just rather not do it."
"Sex is over, we are too old and we are past having children."

Sex can be a tool to create bonds that strengthen relationships. Why are you walking away from it?

So this year, create a resolution. Write it down and hide it in that Santa or Elf hat that you are packing away so you can find them next year. Spend time to evaluate your sex life. Even if you have an amazing sex life. Think about what it's like to lay naked with the person you love, holding and being held. Learn to not be selfish with sex, learn to satisfy, trust me it will increase your satisfaction. Talk openly about sex with your partner.

Just spend 1 hour today or tonight out of 8,760 hours you will be spending this year living your life, and think about sex and your relationship with it.

So this year, when you list your resolutions...

1) Be a better Christian
2) Be a better spouse
3) Be a more sexual person
4) ...

You get the picture!

Happy New Year!

LV-Vixen