We live in Southern Illinois with a large, mostly younger church. We are 65. My wife is not able to have any type of sexual activities because of a broken back. It's been 6 years now. I still have a sex drive but suppress it as much as I can. I don't feel I can talk about this with her as I don't want her feeling badly. I have thought about meeting people and exploring sex up to penile insertion in the vagina out of respect for her. I've even considered getting together with another guy or group. During this time I have found myself fantasizing about other sexual activities with others ei. mutual masturbation, oral sex, anal, pegging, playing with another guy in front of his wife, glory holes, light BDSM all of which are new to me. If I move forward with this, how do I proceed? I don't think I can just make a proposal to others I'm interested in. Definitely don't want to be outed but would like to keep it amongst people with a similar belief system. Any help?