Hey all! I’m (M25) in need of advice.

I posted previously about being rejected by this woman at my church and as time has gone by, I’m increasingly of the opinion that it’s because she doesn’t know me well enough. She seems like the type of woman who would prefer to know someone very well as a friend - and communicated as much when she rejected me (she said she’d rather continue to explore our friendship when I asked her out). But now I’ve noticed that I feel this need to constantly prove myself to her; that I’m what she’d like to have in a partner. As such, sometimes I’m not myself when I’m around her.

Obviously, I know this is wrong, so I’m not looking for someone to tell me that this is wrong. But rather, I’m hoping someone can give me advice as to how I can overcome this feeling. I know well enough that it’s probably a self confidence issue?

It’s additionally frustrating because every time she mentions what she may be looking for in a partner, she mentions traits that I and my friends believe I have.

Is there anyone on here who has overcome something similar?

Also, please be kind lol. I already feel bad as it is for the rejection.

Edit: cutting her off completely is tough because we have the same friend group.