Well the title says it all! Hey all, I’m seeking advice (specifically from men) on how I can overcome rejection.

Background; I (M25) was crushing on a lovely lady from my church (F28) for quite some time and finally gathered the confidence to ask her out. I was EXTREMELY nervous and so I didn’t even ask her out in the way that I intended to (probably part of the reason she rejected me lol).

I have no doubt that I can be friendly with her, but I’m having a hard time moving forward (mentally and emotionally) as I was very into her for reasons beyond her looks - she’s intentional with her relationship with God, is very friendly and funny, approaches life in a very considered and mature way, our life values and family ideals match quite well, and she is very attractive.

My question is; how do the men on this sub go about handling rejection in a healthy manner such that they can move on comfortably? Typically, does the fact that your friends know that you are crushing on someone impact how you move on? I ask because I feel (1) sad about the rejection and my lack of composure in asking her out (2) embarrassed by the fact that my friends knew and that I’ve essentially failed in front of them.

Another question; I’ve noticed that I may have confidence issues. I think, subconsciously I considered her to be out of my league - hence why I was always so nervous around her. This is obviously bad, so does anyone have any advice on how I can overcome this so that I don’t find myself in a similar situation in the future?