This philosophy of mine began when I was 18 and slowly refined over the years. When I was 18, unlike many of my peers at the time, including some family members, I aways wanted to find my partner to marry, now at the time I didn't refer to her as my true love and soul mate, even though I believed in them and still do.

I just wasn't actively looking for her, but I held and theory and belief that.. If I was looking for someone to marry, I shouldn't cap and put on restrictions.

Using the analogy of a drain, the more you plug the less water runs through, even to a tiny trickle... Where as removing the plug completely and allowing any and all possibilities, in turn would allow you to quickly find each other.

Now at the time I didn't believe in God so, I had no stock or belief during this time.

So locally I started my first and authentic search, I'd also take mental notes on the local couples and figure out how they met and the story involved with them. One couple I knew, the man and woman were almost high-school sweethearts.. The man an early 20s just happened to be out of town and the woman completely accidental just happened to be at the same location. They meet, get to know each other and began their courtship being in completely two different areas all together.

With time he found a house, the same house he still lived in when I heard his tale, He knew this was the place for them. So they ended up getting married and bought this house he previously scouted out, and had a long and happy marriage. Of course it isn't without its ups and downs, no marriage is, but they were still happy together.

It was form this man that my theory truly starts to take form, to live so far apart and a complete accidental coincidence, they by chance meet.

Back to the drain analogy, I decided I wouldn't let any restrictions or as little as possible dictate the search for a partner to marry.

Locally I found no woman truly wanted to get to know me on a romantic level, so I figured that local women are pretty much snobs.

I did meet a couple women though before taking my search online, one girl I was completely head over er heels for... I just couldn't build up enough courage to do anything about it. She ended up moving out of state.

The second girl was a waitress at the local Chinese Restaurant, her family owned the building, she did everything in that building.

She approached me and to skip details, I did finally after a couple months of building confidence, I asked her out and she turned me down, because she had someone in her life. Somehow I missed it completely.

About 6 months after this meeting I fell into a group of people and began my journey as a Christian and began my search online. I've used all the current dating apps at the time eHarmony, Match, Chemistry, Christian Mingle, etc. I was at one point or other a paid member to each one..

I met many individuals online and some even though we matched, we never made it to the dating phase but remained friends, and still talk to this day.

As I refined my philosophy on relationships and dating I did start changing other aspects to my search.

At the age of 32 I began opening up my search to other religions and ultimately to outside of state.. I've never really reached out to anyone out of country, just because it's more of a pain for me, however if someone out of country does reach out to me I give them a proper chance to see where things go.

At the age of 33 I started to analyze properties of a relationship and the human element. Let me explain a little.

Whenever I start to speak to someone I break down their personality into several categories. Both good and bad.

Characteristics. Virtues. Habits. Personality. Qualities. Values. Standards. Morals.

I start asking questions in relation to these and slowly get to know the person I'm talking to, I learn all about their mindset and I weigh them into a secondary list all of which fit or coincide with me and my level.

Tolerance. Personality. Morals. Standards Etc.,Etc.,Etc.,

From here I pick apart the unimportant things about a person, this is how I determine the measure of worth of a person.

There's a lot that in truth doesn't matter, again using the drain analogy.. I am only looking at the person as an individual.

There's a lot of baggage, issues, problems I can take from another person, because I am looking for whomever God has set for me.

Remember God has only been in my life since 26 and I'm only 35, so his addition is relatively new still.

I figure that if God has a woman for me, she'll be as imperfect as I am.. Because deep down she'll have to show an exceeding amount of patience when dealing with me, this is what I'm looking for in my partner.

Everything else is secondary or unimportant. Because reading the Bible the story of Zechariah 2:6-13, it would seem even sometimes you are given a very imperfect person in life.

It is because of this book, the reason why I post to other communities outside of the normal and Christian based, this is why I chose to post to communities even if I personally disagree or have no feelings towards.

If you check my profile I have nothing to hide, I am only looking for whomever God send my way, and if something develops.

Out of all my research the only important quality I truly need from someone.

Faith. Open mindedness. Exceedingly patient.

This is all I'm looking for the time being, I haven't needed or wanted anything else, because that is what my true love and soul mate will have when I find her.

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"Become the person you want to marry" - Mother.