Hey, guys. I've seen a few posts like this, but I thought I would give it a shot. I'm coming up on forty, and I've been a lone wolf most of my life, and over the last few years, I realized I need brothers even more than I need a traditionally intimate relationship. I feel as though I've missed out on some fundamental male bonding moments.

I would love to find a core group of two or three other dudes who would like to be in something of a pack or brotherhood--encourage each other, bond, celebrate each other's wins. I also think it would be amazing to set goals together and help each other develop into better men.

I would also like to set up a dynamic that feels almost primal. I would love to just feel uninhibited around other men and experience some blend of intimacy and camaraderie. I've seen other communities where bonding is centralized around phallic celebration, and I definitely think there's something evolutionary about that unspoken cock-size hierarchy. I would love to find other chill dudes to just comment on it, commit to it, without it being overtly sexual.

Finally, sometimes I just need to "revert back to factory settings" and be a dumb guy. I feel like that's a feature of my personality I need to get in touch with in a controlled and healthy way.

I'm in Chicago. Let's talk.