Ok. We're fairly new to the lifesytle. We dated on and off for a long time when we were younger. Currently 35M/31F. We met when I was like 17 and she was lying saying she was older. But it didn't matter. I wasn't interested in her at the time. Nor did we meet in person. All party line stuff with a friend of mine who just needed someone to talk otp with the friends friend.

Anyways now we're engaged. I love her. She loves me.

Initially she suggested we do an open relationship this go round. Well fast forward to last year. She's ready to actually try 3somes. There's a guy at her job that's been flirting etc. She says he'd be perfect for the MFM threesome because she likes him enough but isn't going to become crazy about it.

But he suggested that he becomes her 2nd boyfriend. She brings it to me. I say if that's what u want to do then I'm fine with it. I just set my rules: 1. I need to meet this guy before yall do anything sexual 2. he needs to get tested before yall get physical. 3. We still need to make sure we have our own time for romance and sex.

She agrees. She tells him. He agrees.

Now this guy starts doing to much. I mean. Telling her that he's going to take her from me. Saying she can move in with him. Just moving in an clown manner.

A month goes by and the day that we decided to meet comes. Now she's anxious for how this is going to go because we all have tight schedules.

We agree to meet at a bar with pools tables. We offer to pick the guy up and he declines saying he'll meet us there at 7pm.

Chat. He doesn't get there until 1030pm. While she's texting him trying to figure out where he's at. He's clearly feeding her lies that he's on his way and ubers canceled etc. We've sat here ordered drinks, ate a full meal, Played pool, Lost at bingo, Got hit on by an older couple at the bar. And were about to just go get a room for ourselves when he finally arrived.

So he finally arrives and I think damnThis man looks like he ain't even showered today. Nothing about his demeanor gave I'm popping out. Or this is a date. Etc.

But now she seems excited and more nervous now. So we stay a little longer and chat with him. We play a round of pool and the bar does last call for the night. So we go sit in the car. I don't smoke so I tell them we can go get the room if they still wanna smoke.

We all agree. We go find a cheap hotel. And now we're all here. They're rolling up. I say hey ima run grab a bottle. So I leave for like 30 minutes. Come back with a lil drink. They're outside just smoking. They finish. We go inside. And now we're just sitting there awkwardly.... so I suggest a shot. My girl asks so how are we doing this?

We both look at her and say idk. What u got in mind????

She's shy and doesn't want to just come out and say it. So we play music. Etc just trying to break the awkwardness. We take more shots. Maybe like 2 to 3 each.

She says. Well who wants they dick sucked first.

Me being the gentleman that I am. I say I get it all the time, he can go first. He doesn't hesitate. She starts going to work on him. I take a few more shots because this is a first for someone I care about.

She asks am I ok. I say yes.

I was but I had to see how far this would go.

I go to the bathroom. She comes banging on the door. I open it and she asks are you ok. I tell her. Yes I just had to pee. Go ahead. Don't let me interrupt the vibe.

She continues sucking him. I sit across from them because I wanted to let them have their encounter.

Things went left when she decided to fuck him, Raw.

Now I know she likes it raw. But he never got tested. And we agreed beforehand that if he didn't she would use protection. Nobody likes condom head. But to let him penetrate u raw is just disrespectful as I only had 3 rules.

So I decide to leave. She initially wanted their first date and encounter to be just the 2 of them. But I was opposed because the guy could've been a psychopath. There were multiple red flags and even right up until he met us at the bar. There were multiple lies.

I figured. I'd let them finish and just come pick her up then.

No. She calls me and I have to explain why I'm leaving. She wanted to leave with me and I told her no stay and finish. He calls me from her phone trying to apologize and I tell him. No yall finish whatever yall doing. It's no point in me talking to you sir. My issue is with the woman that I have an agreement and commitment with.

I came back maybe half an hour later to get her. Because she called a few more times.

I feel bad for leaving her there. But she had expressed how she felt comfortable enough to go get a room with him alone. Just the 2 of them.

Any advice or feedback on this would be appreciated.