I get super horny on stims and then find myself casting about for someone to connect with, usually to no avail. My family/home situation (married, kids) limits my options somewhat, and scrolling reddit subs for hookups is increasingly futile. I can't put hookup apps on my phone. My question: Is there an easier, more direct way to connect with others who are into casual, not super-hardcore chemsex but are not super sketchy tweakers or straight-up prostitutes (no offense to either category)? A specific website or server or...?

Not sure if it matters, but I live in Brooklyn, NY and generally prefer female companionship, though I've had a few good times with men, and honestly, when I'm in that mood, anything seems possible. The important part for me would be taking it really slow and sensual, with a lot of touch, kissing, etc - an emphasis on exploration and trust.

Thanks for reading and I welcome your thoughts.