Alright this may be mainly for the taken women to weigh in on…but guys with solid advice are obviously welcome to help! Happy with anything haha.

Alright, so I (36M) have had 2 affairs—been married 10 years. I live in the PNW.

The first was purely spontaneous and happened while at a convention (will share that story shortly because it was one for the books). Essentially, though, I only knew she was interested because she was sad I was supposed to leave and convinced me to stay one more night instead of going home…it was pretty obvious what could potentially happen.

The second I found on Ashley Madison, so I basically had to end up paying for a shit ton of credits, blah blah, and it didn’t feel super spontaneous.

Anyway, I want more of the former type of cheating to happen (AKA friends of friends, neighbor’s wives, while on a trip, people I meet on Reddit, etc.)

I’m the “nice guy” with a really “nice” wife. I’m the guy NO ONE would expect would cheat. You know those guys? But both of the married women I’ve been with were blown away at how passionate, sensual, and rough I was and commented that it’s the best sex they’ve had. So I know I can back it up, but man…I’m hyper aware of people thinking I’d never cheat, and I don’t know how to give off “fuck me” vibes to other married women…

I just…can some of you married women help me out here lol? I enjoy how I look, I take really good care of myself, I CAN be a total flirt, but I freeze up around anyone who might know my wife for fear of them saying something to her.

Any advice? Lol what else do you want to know to help you answer? 😂

tl;dr - I need help with cheating rizz and come across as the nice guy to everyone