I used to frequent this sub when it first happened so I just wanted to pop in and say it truly truly truly gets better. Getting cheated on was probably the best thing to ever happen to me. Don't get me wrong the first few months were certainly awful. But I've taken this past year to really get to know myself.

I went from thinking I wasn't loveable and ugly to loving myself more than I ever have. I've gone on road trips and adventures by myself and had more fun than I ever had with them. I've had so much more time to figure out my hobbies and do things that bring me joy. I've gained a new level of independence.

I used to check their social media constantly every single day. I couldn't imagine a single minute without thinking about him. It was a daily struggle not sending him a text. Now, I’ll go an entire week without him even crossing my mind. If he does, I no longer get that punch-in-the-gut feeling. I just acknowledge the thought and move on.

I held so much anger towards him, wishing the worst for him. When it first happened I turned into a monster, doing and saying things that were so out of character. Now I've let go of all that anger and genuinely feel neutral towards a person who I previously prayed would get hit by a car, lol. I’ve learned to accept situations as they are. Meditation has helped me a lot and I highly recommend it.

Anyway. Just wanted to post this to give some of you hope. Life goes on. Seize this situation and learn and grow from it. And do NOT break no contact. Accept that you will never speak again. It really helps.