Been with my wife for 4 years. she came into the relationship with one child and I had two from a previous marriage. I just recently within the past year fully and legally adopted my wife’s daughter that she brought into the marriage and I’m happy for that I love the kid and am happy to be her dad .well just on this last mothers day I caught her cheating. so Saturday night the night before she set her phone down on the counter in front of me while we were cooking in the kitchen and I seen some random guy instant message her I didn’t snoop then and I tried to let it go but the next morning when she went in the bathroom I couldn’t help it and had to look I opened her messenger and there it all was her talking shit on me and confessing her love and all the shit to some random guy I called her on it and she didn’t even try to deny she just told me I’m basically dumb for not realizing that the relationship was over a long time ago ( we been together 4 years and only got married 9 fucking months ago) so yeah I didn’t realize the relationship was over a long time ago I’m just so stunned and blown away cause like I said we been together 4 years and glued to the hip and have literally been best friends i have always been in absolute awe of her and I never seen it coming not a damn clue and on top of that I just adopted her daughter not that long ago ( 7 months) and she has the nerve to tell me it’s been over for a long time and she hasn’t loved me for a long time. We live together and have a house together and absolutely cannot afford to split our living situation as nether of us can afford a place on our own and both of us have shit credit I’m so devastated I haven’t eaten since Saturday and it’s Tuesday now I’m just so broken and don’t know what to do

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