Hello fellow degenerates…

So mine is a question of options….

A little background:

Been married 10 years, major driver of marriage was sexual runway, but long story short have been in a dead bedroom for the last 5 years.

We have been playing around w chastity for the last 6 months, and there are a number of positives:

1. my satisfaction, need for attention
2. feeds her ego (and my fantasy)
3. submissive to her energy

That said, there seems to be one major negative, she enjoys dick more than oral. Chastity is having the desired effect in regards to sexual tension and prioritising her pleasure. But..: She wants dick. Above orgasms, more than some intimate engagement.

***. Quick edit: we both think / hope there is a pathway for us to invite additional dick into our relationship. But today our relationship is broken, for a multitude of reasons, and based on every piece of advice when it comes to making that fantasy into reality, we need to get our foundation back to make that happen.

So I am sittin here, caged. She is looking for side action. And we are searching for key pathways…

Any advice?