Greetings,

I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist searching for information, research, or any personal experiences on the use of male chastity in conjunction with couples counseling? This would be for non-kink use in the area of affair recovery, porn addiction, compulsive masturbation, or to balance some dynamic of power/control within a relationship?

Since COVID, I've had a couple of clients disclose they've used chastity as a way to balance power, set limits, or enforce boundaries when the male partner had been acting out sexually or failing to uphold agreed responsibilities in their relationship. In each of these cases it was the male partner who had the idea, and the female at first was resistant because it was seen as a fetish. Each of these couples have reported the use of chastity made a significant improvement in their relationship and helped establishing trust. The problem has always been the introducing the idea that's not first seen as another kink or fetish. When I research for this as a possible modality in therapy, all I find is information that's more fetish related to things like BDSM, cuckolding, femdom, and female led relationships. No judgment here on any of those actives, but I can't really hand a women, who's husband just cheated on her, a book about female led relationships!

Not to pick on men or porn, but in my years of counseling I've seen hundreds of couples dealing with a male partners over use of porn and masturbation to the point they no longer seek any emotional connection with their partner - It's just to easy to grab you phone and head off the the bathroom to get a release! Years ago you had to go to an adult bookstore in the seedy part of town to get printed magazine. Today you can get images/video of any interest/fetish in just seconds on your phone. How can women compete with that kind of technology? I'm not bashing on porn, I'm just saying technology has greatly impacted both emotional and physically intimacy in today's relationships. I have countless female clients that have significant trust issues, shame, anger, and feelings of betrayal, in this area, but as a therapist I'm not ethical able to suggest male chastity as a possible modality since I can't find it's use anywhere that it's in use in therapy.

Seems to me a great idea - I have done a lot of reading on this topic and I see discussions on forms were countless of women that have been able to regain their partners connection, balance the power dynamic in their relationship, and establish trust again with the use of enforced chastity. I just can't find a book, article, or any technical information on this topic that's not kink related.

I'm hoping someone on in this group maybe able to point me to a source?