Hi,

I've been a bit obsessed with chastity cages for nearly 20 years. Both times that I showed them to my wife and asked her to be my keyholder, she refused, saying it was disgusting, and threw the cages out in the garbage. Today I'm surfing the web and I see a post obviously by her from 2017 about how her DH wants a chastity cage, and she's taking more and more control over our lives, and she loves that i do all the chores and gets a "special thrill" when I come upstairs at night, exhausted, to plop into bed and she asks me to go out to the store to get her a snack. And I do it! She said that she loves getting oral from me and would love to just go to sleep but feels obligated to have sex (which she wouldn't if I was caged). Some of the women on this women's health site tried to talk her out of it, saying that it's not a normal dynamic, I have psychological issues and need a therapist, but she was basically telling them that she wants to do it and it would make our marriage completely perfect: more control, more sex drive from me/no masturbating, better lifestyle. Unfortunately, I only found it today, 6 years later. I desperately want her to be my KH, to tease me, deny me, make me worship her body, etc. How do you recommend I act? Keep in mind, she's very traditional and conservative--talking about sex is cringy. What do you think? Thanks in advance!