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I'm not looking for sympathy in any way, as this is something I'm considering doing out of choice, and have always wanted to try, but never have out of fear of causing worry or offence to my loved ones.
I've had a pretty rough year which included a very difficult break-up amongst other personal issues. I'm in my 30's/m and have no children, nor a desire to have any. I have offers from siblings to stay for Christmas, which I do really appreciate and I do love them, but there is always a tension in the house around that time of year, as well as a pretty outrageously materialistic and stressful atmosphere. I just don't think I'm up to putting on a brave face and playing the part of "fun-uncle" this year.
I have a bit of spare cash and I was considering booking into somewhere along the coast for a few nights, do some sea-swimming, hiking and writing. It might sound boring as fuck to some but to me it sounds like just what I need.
I consider myself very lucky for the fact that of the things I do struggle with - loneliness doesn't tend to be one of them. I enjoy my own company and have plenty of hobbies that reflect this.
I guess I'm just writing this because I feel I'm going to be seen as "weird" and I just don't want to have people worried, or feel offended by this decision, and maybe someone here is or has been in a similar position... If so, how was it and how did you spend your time?
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Edit: Jesus, thanks for all the encouragement. I did have a feeling it sounded weirder in my own head, but I wasn't expecting all of this kindness and understanding. It's really comforting to know that I'm not alone in being alone.
‘No one should be alone at Christmas’ is a phrase that is repeated so often and so casually, but, it’s not a fact, it’s a matter of opinion and plenty of people spend Christmas alone in a stress free environment and just literally chill.
Tonnes of so called social norms are impressed upon us from the mob and the sheep and marketing / advertising companies that we think those are the ideals.
They aren’t. I’m just 19 and I would love a Christmas with my boyfriend, just chilling and watching tv and eating and do a nice reset mentally at the end of the year.
Enforced participation in joyful celebrations is not ever something that appealed to me
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