For 27 years of my life, I've been a good person and followed my parents footsteps. I always do good things because I don't want to disappoint them. Last year I decided to take a step and get a job far away from them. They are still fussing about it till this day.

My mom always plays the "Mom card" all the time when she needs me to do things that she want eg. Give her money because I'm a daughter. (Yep, I'm Asian) While she spent all the money on gambling and paying debt. I don't recognize her saying I'm beautiful in my lifetime. All I heard was 'You're fat, you have to lose weight.' or 'No one would wanna date you' and she always criticize my choice of clothes. Even when I wear short she said I have big thighs or when I wear tight pants she said I look fat. It's hurt to hear and annoying at the same time.

Today I come back home to visit my grandma and I wear a backless bodysuit with long sleeves. First thing my mom great me after not seeing me for 2 months was 'This look embarrassing, how could you wear this? Go change it now. I don't like it'

But this time, this time I didn't follow what she said. Instead I tell her 'If you don't like what I wear, you better get use to it now. Because I like it and I'm not gonna change.' It was a terrifying moment and it might seem to be a silly little thing to talk about but I'm so damn proud of myself for speaking up and being there for myself.