I’ve been taking care of my dad since May and now I wish I’d started sooner. He’s been in long term care facilities for the past five years or so despite being relatively independent but had a lot of medical issues. He recently had a subdural hematoma that was treated in the hospital by reversing his blood thinners. They discharged him without surgery because he was stable and he ended up back in the ER the next night where they performed a surgery to remove the blood from his brain. He has been unable to communicate since. He has progressively gotten worse and they’re not really sure why. They did an MRI and no stroke so they did a second surgery and removed part of his skull so that his brain can swell out instead of in, but it hasn’t seemed to help much and he’s been having seizures. He’s also been on a ventilator since his surgery, they don’t want to take him off until his seizures are under control.

This is all to say that I’m not doing very well. I haven’t been able to focus at work and I’ve been spending as much time as I can at the hospital but I really don’t like seeing him on the ventilator.

I’m really scared and would just appreciate any kind words or advice.