My mom has become too difficult to predict. The other day, she attempted suicide, under the guise she had contacted friends she knew in her home region.

I thought something was fishy, but the thought of her staying with old friends while my partner and I found work and housing was a win/win. I told her i didn't want any money they offered unless we were allowed to pay it back, given nothing is free unless stated otherwise.

Absolutely exhausted and i do not have power of attorney. So she can refuse mental health services and walk away. She threatened suicide at the last place, and i couldnt handle her calling upset daily, saying she will die soon if i didnt get her. Id lose her either way. So i quit my job and ran her home so she was placated until i can show family what is going on and get advice on the next steps. Its hard to explain, so this was the only solution i could come up with.

We are in a car, and spent everything and went negative waiting to reach any relatives. Searching the region, but the only family here is on vacation and i dont want to drop this revelation while they're on the trip they planned months in advance.

Not sure how to find reprieve. Clothes are dirty except hers, im afraid to wear the only clean pants and shirt i have left, and still a 4-5 week wait on shelter.

I sacrificed my career again to keep her alive. My partner is getting sick and im following suit. We're on under half a tank left and I am in a situation i cant realistically seeing her surviving while waiting for shelter. The voucher i had relied being available only applies to families with children, but not caregivers of parents that live with them.

She'll disappear if I call emergency services to take her to a nursing home again. She'll attempt suicide if I dont do as she wants and not put her in a nursing home.

I'm so tired, and i am afraid I will lose my partner. I have to choose between the loves of my life, it seems. Because if we dont have time to take care of ourselves, he could die too due to health reasons. We cant keep this up, but she will hurt herself to get her way. I put too many years into her care to just let someone slip up in her care.

And if we do find work in time, she can choke on food and die while we are away, even if we get a hotel while we save(turns out, our skill set here gets us better pay here and more variety).

What do I do?