My wife of 10 years died last August 20th 2023 from a long battle with breast cancer that grew and metastasized pretty much everywhere in her body now as all of you know any medical diagnosis and in this case cancer can be a strain in many ways financially being the most prominent one. Between the hospital bills insurance and the three credit cards at $10,000 a piece I took out just to get her medication and everything else I don't know what to do anymore I live in the state of Georgia in the city of Albany I'm posting on Reddit here because I've tried everything else maybe somebody can help me or point me in the right direction or I don't know something I literally can't even pay my rent this month I'm barely able to keep the power on since my wife died I have sold what I could to pay bills and make it but between the finances and my wife passing away and just going through all that I am out of options as to what I can do I've tried getting a loan I even tried to get another credit card but I couldn't they were quick to give them to me when they saw I was paying the insurance in the hospital bills and they were quick to raise that limit from 5 to 10,000 but after my wife died all they wanted was their money obviously but then they wouldn't give me another card I couldn't get shit after my wife died and believe it or not I can't even get food stamps and I have tried but I am not eligible there's not a lot if any that I found assistance programs for cancer caregivers for people that are here when their loved one passes away how many men out there have wives who died how many women have husbands who've died from cancer financial burden is horrible but that pales in comparison to losing the love of your life I'd be lying if I said I laid in bed for the first month no I could not even get out of bed and when I did I found myself just not all there it's taken off of work more and what little savings I did have that was gone quick. Eventually my cousin who unfortunately went through the same thing with his wife and she had passed away 8 years ago now but I don't have any family other than him and he couldn't do much other than offer support and wisdom and advice. The end of August all of September and the first half of October were rough by the time the first couple weeks in November rolled around I kind of started to get my shit together again I went back to my job which is a full-time job and I even started doing doordash part-time to make a little extra money since got my w-2s and filed my taxes but that will only help so much it's gotten to the point all I can do is pick and choose what I can pay and what I can't pay but I think I can go without do I pay the power this month or do I pay the rent or all of the rent or some of the rent well I have two dogs I have to feed them I guess I'm eating rice for a week car insurance past due I know I'll get to it eventually I guess what I'm trying to say is it's fucking bullshit that we get left in a shitty position on our loved one passes away for 15 months I cared for her completely I made my whole life about her even though it already was before I made it more so and there is nothing out there nothing for after the passing of a cancer patient not for the loved ones I've looked I mean it's stressful can't sleep I also is back and this is just my story. The money the amount of money the staggering of amount of money that we're supposed to pay is absolutely absurd.

I'm sorry if I was rambling there this is something that's been in my mind for a while and has been unfortunately building and I guess this is where I let it out.

So if anybody out there has any advice and put me in the right direction and help can I don't know anything it would be greatly appreciated because I got nothing I mean ZIP I don't know what to do what I can do I'm at a loss.

That was my absolutely beautiful wife Monica there's not a day that goes by where I don't miss her more than you could possibly know I love that woman more than words can express.

Thank you all for reading I guess listening to me and I hope whoever is reading this knows that I know what you're going through and I know what you went through and you have my perspect and admiration and my love.

Patrick L.