Let me start by saying: I realize this is a very detailed and specific thing I'm seeking, but l've found it in the past and am willing to wait as long as it takes for the right thing again.

Briefly about me - I'm 42, 6'3", short-bearded, live in Toronto, am married with a kid and have a white collar career in the financial world. Definitely have my shit together, am fairly active with a bigger but still athletic build, though I certainly enjoy good food and drinks. I’m a busy guy and have no time or energy for games or bullshit, and l've been ghosted enough to know it's something I could never do. That shit hurts.

l've lived this life before though it's been a few years since... dabbling. I’ll be up front that I've only ever been interested in one partner at a time since the alternative just seems too messy and adds unnecessary risk (in so many ways). Why has it been a while? Good question, honestly. A lot has been just plain old life and not having had the time to seek out the filler for what's missing. I'm now at a place where having that in my life again would be really nice.

What I'm seeking: a (probably single) fwb who is prepared to host (once we've met and there is some established comfort, obviously). Why (probably) single? Because, as l've said, l've done this before and I know full well that the logistics are the hardest part when it involves two married people.

I work a hybrid job and my career affords me some great daytime flexibility with my schedule. Evenings and weekends, while fantastic treats, are going to be pretty rare.

About you: age is pretty flexible, maturity and a genuine connection are the most important things. If we click, then we click. Also, a realistic view of what this relationship is is very important. As is an understanding of the OPSEC required for a connection like this to work. I'm extremely careful about how I do this, and do my best to eliminate as many surprises as possible. Finally - be a good communicator. If you can’t text back normally then please don’t respond to this post.

Short term let’s connect via Reddit messages or chat, but if we’re getting along please be okay with moving over to Instagram. I have a “dummy” account that I use for this, as it’s an app I already have on my phone and easy to swap between accounts discreetly.

Finally, and believe it or not, but I’m actually still close with my very first AP who’d love nothing more than to vouch for me. So I suppose I’ll end this by saying - references available upon request!