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Hello ! Bare with me, its a long post, but i think you can find inspiration, and why not, MOTIVATION!
Sending you lots of virtual hugs!🤗 I feel you ! Ive been there too, and also I know girls that feel just the same way , especially if your are doing this for more than just a couple of years.
Ive been struggling with this especially since there was a lot that I was dealing with in my private life, and the majority of my problems were relying on my income as a model in order to be solved, so ive put a lot of pressure on myself as a cam model.
It took me over 4 years to come to terms with it, and actually realize why I was feeling so down and depressed. I had very deep anxiety attacks, stress and even somehow like a fear of failing and not being good at what I do, in order to earn that money. Also the fact that you need to hide that really good especially when you're on cam, smiling all the time, having a very outgoing and carefree vibe,It's hard. Its hard doing this when you feel like your dying inside. Took me almost 4 years of struggle, while ive still worked, but less than before and making also less money.But now, since 2 months, finally I come to understand where did that stress was coming from and what was actually causing it.
This is serious, and please do not ignore it, because it will get worse, especially if you cannot understand yourself and find the actual issue that is causing it. And you will need years, like me, in order to understand yourself and start doing this in a way that makes you feel better.
I will tell you what I did, that helped me and hope that it will give you and others that struggle, something to start with and to solve the issue, as yes, it can be solved.
First thing I did, after years, I really took a step back and look at the situation as a whole. I realized the cause of it. It was not that I was actually hating camming at all costs, but i was camming while puting a lot of pressure earning the same amount of money as before, but in a shorter amount of time.I didnt realize that while not logging in for long times it will make me lose a part of my fans, and the potential new ones. Remember, the more you are offline, the worse the situation will become, especially if you need a certain amount of money.
Keep in mind that no matter the problem you deal with, sometimes it just require TIME in order to get solved. And no matter how much you will burn yourself out to solve it, you won't. At least not right there where you want it solved. So, be gentle with yourself and realize, that sometimes it's not depending on you entirely, and that also life, and other things happening, they need to just happen, just like you need time to process things in order to get clarity some day. So whether is a financial struggle or not, or emotional one, let things roll, and stop stressing over it, cause youre doing yourself harm. Just tell yourself that nothing can get worse than this, BUT it will go away gradually.
Regarding your camming: try not putting pressure on yourself. While you are getting ready for it, stop thinking that its awful, that you don't have the energy for it, that you are sick of it. Most likely, you are not. Just take a step back and realize what camming did for you, and what you were actually able to achieve just thanks to it. In my case , it payed for building a new house, bought me a new car, offered me a lifestyle more carefree, bought me holidays, etc. Most important: it gave me FREEDOM. I am working from home, from my own comfort, I have more time for my familly, i dont need to deal with anyone's rules than MINES, i dont need to put up with very long hours unless I want to achieve something really big, as it was the house for ex. People here they pay a mortgage for 35years, whilst Ive worked part time and in 2 years i was ready to move in. You dont need to call in sick, or find excuses for needing a day off. You are FREE!! I think of all these and other benefits and realize that wow! This is freaking awesome! I can't give up on it! I mean, who would? Then I refuse thinking of anything that would bring me down while getting myself ready. My problems are left behind my bedroom door, and I focus on making a plan for my streaming. Try working in smaller goals, even write them if necessary. It would be easier to acknowledge them and make steps forward to achieve it. It is well known that being online consistently it helps not only your income, but also your model account, and regulars and future fans. So be there! A day when you make a small amount of money, is still better than one that you didnt make anything at all. Its small, slow, BUT still progress. Maybe you didnt make money that day, but that day were some members that added you to their favorite list and will come another time to spend with you So , that its not a bad day, when you struggle for nothing! You put an effort, for exposure, and making your presence known.
Dont think of anything while camming, not even if it is the slowest day that you ever had! Keep yourself busy while being there. Busy with things that make you feel better. Play your favorite song, even look on social media if there is no one with whom you can interact, wear headsets and listen to your favorite podcast. Do whatever you want for as long as it doesnt make you look bored on cam, or very distracted. Dance, paint, read, send mass messages, edit pictures, send personal messages to your regulars or to the new ones you've just had a private with, not long ago, make them feel special, make that human bound, etc. When you do have an audience ENGAGE with them, and look at it as if you were there with a bunch of new people, having a great time. Find topics to debate, while still being flirtatious. They are also people, just like us , and sometimes they also have a bad time. Forget that you are an entertainer only! Make camming FUN and ENTERTAINING for you as well. Stop looking at the clock constantly, and at your earnings! It doesn't help, it puts pressure on you. Take a mindset like: " I'm here to socialize, to make friends, to feel better and discover something new about this, or about life in general, or even about yourself. The less stress you put on yourself and really acknowledge that this is actually fun and enjoyable, and worth, the easier will be for you to have a good time, and time online will pass easier.
Dont worry about having talks with your audience about life, travels, traditions, movies etc. thinking that this will reduce your chances for private as you are moving their attention from sexual things . You can always make a flirt of anything, and reduce it to sexy things, or jokes sex related , for reminding them of the actual place they are in. Its the perfect way to have time passing by, but also it gives your audience the chance to get to know you as a person, and why not to make them fall for you. That way, they know that you are not a sextoy only, and that you can actually be a sexy friend with benefits 😋, a companion, a person with whom they can talk about other things, that are not necessarily sex related. Camming it is not porn! They are there for human interaction, otherwise they would be watching free porn, and they wouldn't be in your room. Having them seeing you as human as possible will also make your privates smother. They will be more considerate while asking you things in private, they will take more time into getting things down to a show and this will equal in more money.
In conclusion: be gentle with yourself, stop worrying for things that you cannot change over night. Spoil yourself while you're offline. Keep being active also while offline( gym, walks, cleaning the house,familly, having a drink, eat your favorite meal, gardening, etc), Take a supplement of Magnesium and vitamins ( i did , and boosted my energy level a bit more). Come online relaxed and ready to step away for a couple of hours from all your struggles, and have fun and destress. Stop checking your online time and earnings all the time!Stop thinking its slow. While its slow you still help your business grow, forget your earnings and target more the hours you are there. Find a reasonable amount of hours per month, than break it into h/week, hours/ day. Build a relationship with your members, by contacting them while they are not online, or while your offline. And be consistent, while not putting any pressure at all on yourself. Cam for yourself! Its better when feeling depressed to actually talk with people, than isolate yourself. Remember! Only YOU as a camhost will set the vibe of your room: whether it will be porn, or whether it will be friendly, respectful, and fun. It will help you transition into shows a bit more easier if you entertain a specific type of members. That type that is not there only for the show.
Keep your chin up ! You got this! ❤
I can't take credit for what's not mine, this post is written by EvaEva 1 month ago in a camming forum - and I posted it here with written consent!
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