Fear: Something bad may happen. Shame: I am a bad person.

Shame comes with fear: "I am a bad person, and I fear that others will find out"

Exercise: Can I imagine shame without that fear? Or is shame nothing more than the fear of sanction by the tribe?

I can't.

Shame thrives on secrecy, silence, and self-judgement.

Edit:

Scenario: I do an act that shows me as a bad person. Yes I fear it getting out into the community.

Now it does get out into the community. I can no longer fear it getting out. Now I fear future looks. Future angry stares. Future looks followed by a sly knowing grin. Looks followed by looking away. Whispered comments said to someone else, intended that you not overhear.

I'm betting some people feel fear intitially, but feel more shame when it's out.

Others may only feel the fear ahead of time, and once it's out, it's "Oh well, everyone knows now."