He wants to pursue support/therapy/relief but doesn’t know where to start, feels so overwhelmed all the time.

I know I need to be able to make stronger boundaries so I’m not always running to his rescue. But what are some clear lines of “show up with him for this,” and “absolutely don’t take that on?”

He is frozen He can’t get back to the psychiatrist, we just got his insurance back after it lapsed, but doesn’t want to go on risperdal and wellbutrin again because it made him feel like a zombie. Getting major stressors on our list taken care of like addressing his insanely high car payments to refinance or sell, getting him to a therapist (tried one, hated him), or getting on meds again are all just getting pushed back. They are hard for me to take care of too, and I’ve been an enabler for years. But after losing his brother to murder in September, he’s just disappearing. I’m doing everything I can to keep us afloat financially and emotionally. It’s been years of me asking him to see someone, and years of being with a partner who is mostly emotionally unavailable unless totally triggered and activated. He’s very loving towards me, but has nothing to give for himself.

Please point me in a direction for resources that he may be able to use, any specific skills or advice that somehow worked for you when you were too overwhelmed to hear another word about hope or healing.