I am disabled and require a caregiver on certain days. I live with my grandmother and mother who both hate me, and when I say hate, like they've legitimately told me that they do and they've treated me this way since I was born. I was also homeless for 3 years because of them. That's neither here nor there. My grandmother and I had a somewhat good relationship for most of my life but my mother, who I had not spoken to since 2018, came to live with us because her benefactor died. Leaving her nothing.

Anyways, I got a new caregiver who started yesterday and she kept commenting on how my mom doesn't speak to me, how she purposefully slams doors on me, how she acts in overtly disgusted ways around me. And like, I've gone through enough therapy to be able to live with her so long as we have no contact. It's usually quite easy because I have the only downstairs room while my grandmother and her are upstairs. Our only common area is the kitchen and we purposefully stay out of each other's way. That being said, it's probably strange or maybe even uncomfortable for others to see that type of thing. I guess that I've dealt with it so long that it doesn't even feel strange to me because we have been no contact in intervals since she abandoned me 15 years ago.

I was then completely embarrassed that my grandmother somewhat guilt tripped my caregiver into mopping the entire house when she was only supposed to do the kitchen, my bedroom , and my bathroom by seizing the broom and dustpan for her and pulling the couches to the side. My caregiver is paid by the state to care for ME because THEY refuse to do it, so I only require my caregiver to clean my areas as my family can clean up their own messes.

I felt mortified by how my family acted yesterday and furious that they took advantage of my caregiver being there to clean and care for me!

Anyone else?