We both have extreme trauma and this is our third break up in 3 years. This time around she started seeing somebody else but we run into each other and I can tell by the way that she looks at me she loves me. I love her, I love her more than anything.

A week ago after two months of no contact she reached out saying that I am the only man for her and that we should try being friends I went overboard and told her that it may not work that way because I love her and I know that she loves me.

Two days later the guy she is seeing shows up at my house with a restraining order and threatened me with bodily harm as well. It makes me laugh because her and I have talked about our trauma and she knows that I would never hurt her that way and vice versa.

I can tell that this new guy isn't going to last long because when I've seen them together he is way too overprotective and is obviously very controlling. In fact I said very nicely just let her speak for herself and he would not let her.

I wish I knew what to do in order to make her feel safe and somehow express to her that we love each other and all we have to do is work on our trauma related issues slowly.

I'm lost and don't know what to do.