Or is that controlling and manipulative?

It bugs me when he tells his parents emotional things I’ve told him. Like, I told him I’m uncomfortable living with his parents bc I don’t fit in with his family. He told his mom that, while we are living with them. His family is all obsessed with this one thing I’m not into (and it irritates me), he told his mom that this bothers me. Even though it is not a big enough deal in my mind to where I would want to address it with them.

Tonight at dinner, in front of everyone, he said “I’m sorry for the pain that is doing x has caused you”...super humiliating. I felt like he was pushing me out of the group by highlighting my differences.

So I don’t want to control him, but I wish I could ask him to stop. And even if I ask him to stop, he might continue doing it behind my back and just not tell me when he tells on me anymore.

Now I don’t want to talk to him bc it’ll get back to everyone.

Should I bring it up with him? Stop telling him things (thus creating disconnection in the relationship)?

The reason I don’t want his mom to know about my insecurities is because she has not been a safe person in the past. She actually really hurt me last year when I was going through daily flashbacks/panic attacks. I used to think we were close. I called her for support when I was struggling (I now know that my emotions were too intense for civilians and it is wrong of me to ask them for help bc it’s too much)...I got confused and I didn’t realize that she only tolerates me bc she loves her son. I thought she actually cared about ME. But no. When I called her, what I heard was don’t call me, I’m not here for this, you’re a bitch and I don’t understand your misery. And I tried so hard to think of ways to connect with her and spend time with her etc. Back then I just wanted her to like me and to feel connected and be a family. At this point in my mind I have her mixed up with my abusive parents-she has stuff in common with both of them. I honestly never want to open up to her again. I don’t care if I see her again (except I live with them...fuck me)...my husband insists that she likes me and I got in with the family. Bullshit. I feel like he’s not taking me seriously and he’s just dismissing my feelings bc I am mentally ill.

Edit: Thank you all so much, I can’t tell you how much all of the support you guys have given me means. I felt very alone and crazy when I posted this. I was literally crying in the bathroom. I want to go through and reply to everyone. I can’t thank you all enough. Thank you, thank you, thank you