were both black
I'm getting into anti-patriarchy and this girl was flirting with me(she was super attractive to me) while I was reading those books and putting those practices in my life, so the way she would flirt with me was like being "Fuck you op" "I hate op" "Speak when spoken too," she said the f slur too tryna be funny, try to play playfight with me and like I know she wanted a reaction and like she was flirting, but like it felt super reactionary, and I felt like it would be "patriarchal" ig, so I just wanted to not deal with that, but shes flirting with someone else with the same tactics and he's okay with it and reciprocating, and idk I feel like shit seeing it cause I'm like "was I being a wuss", like idk if that's even patriarchy or like maybe I was in the wrong.