Im 27 and my partner and I have been together for over 4 years now. Sometimes we have difficult conversations i.e. if one of us has hurt the others feelings. Whenever I instigate a conversation about how my feelings have been hurt I go completely blank. My body tenses up, I have tunnel vision or sometimes just clench my eyes closed, I have no thoughts at all anymore, trouble breathing, can’t speak and I usually start crying. This has been happening since I was a kid so my therapist suggested I try to prepare myself by practicing what I want to say and explaining my feelings in my head beforehand. I’ll know exactly what I want to say but when the time comes for us to talk it’s like my brain is a hard drive that has been completely wiped out. It doesn’t just happen with my partner, it happens with family, friends, at my work etc. As of recently it’s been BETTER but still happens and when it doesn’t I don’t know how to convince myself that I’m ok or ease myself out of it. It’s makes it almost impossible for me to say anything when someone has done something to me that hurt me or have constructive conversations. Any advice or suggestions?