So I live in California, and the mother and child live in Montana. I was wondering if anyone could provide insight or help out here. Unfortunately, circumstances caused the child to be placed in a foster home, and now CPS is requesting a DNA test from me for paternity reasons. Well the mother and I have both agreed that, under the way things are right now, it would be best for the child to stay with the foster family as we both do not have the means to care for the child, and the child has a bond with the family as it has been several months now. Well I was told that if the DNA test comes back stating that I am the father, then CPS needs to have letters sent out to family members informing them of the result in an attempt to put the child with family first. As it was never certain it was mine, my family does not know of the child at this time. If these letters are sent, then it would cause issues, lots of drama for the family, and my parents may even attempt to uproot the child and gain custody due to it being family, when that would only shock the child and cause issues, as well as not allow the mother (who honestly is a good mother, just life circumstances caused her to not have the means to take care of the child safely at the moment) to not see the child for a very long time, if at all, which we both do not want. Is there any way to prevent these letters being sent out or anything we can do that would give this whole transition a lot smoother of a chance?