I am an adult who was a foster child.

I am a biological mom who was investigated by cps.

I am a bio mom who signed off from my child, releasing him to adoption to protect him from a homeless michigan winter or a sexual predator who was not charged when I was 19, 18 years ago.

I am a sexual assault survivor.

I am a mother of 2 beautiful boys after my first child was taken, now stable, with a beautiful life and 2 more amazing, beautiful sons.

I am a mother who signed the papers for my son to be given my information if he wants to know me.

PLEASE, IF YOU DO THIS JOB * Join the Adopted reddit * Join the Adoptees reddit * Join the Birthparents reddit * Join the Adoption reddit

JOIN them ALL and read, read, read. You are dealing with: *Traumatized parents losing their MOST IMPORTANT PERSON *Traumatized children losing their MOST IMPORTANT PEOPLE *Scared adoptive parents who ONLY want to help those children, without losing them, and most of all, *ALL of the scars of ALL of those people.

Your duty is THE MOST SACRED DUTY entrusted to mankind.

EVERY social worker who educates themselves with ALL sides and ALL aspects and ALL perspectives of your work, can make THE MOST positive impact.

Every worker who does not, and unknowingly damages those they work with, can cause the WORST damage one human can do to another, even more than stillbirth, miscarriage, death, abuse, or neglect.

Studies measured the trauma response of mothers who lost their living children against thise who lost their children to stillbirth, miscarriage or death. Mothers of living lost children scored 3x higher in all trauma areas than mothers who's babies died.

I met one social worker who listened, and went on with fresh perspective, and I believe she is life or death to many children, she is hope to parents, and she is everything I wish for if I chose who to entrust with the sacred duty of carrying my child to his best life.

-Sincery, A foster kid who was adopted, re-abused by my adoptive parents, thrown away with my baby, fought for her baby, gave up her world and her last and only person, had 2 more babies, living our best life, and hoping to love her lost baby again one day, and scared to death he hates me.

This is what you carry to do your job. Please do it well, for all of us kids who are abused, all of us moms who are scared and lost, and all of us parents who NEED YOU TO. God bless you, because people NEED YOU. For some kids, you are their ONLY hope. NEVER question if what you do is that important, it IS.

Throwing it out there:

If Social Worker required the schooling training and background current to becoming one, PLUS the training of trauma therapists, PLUS at least a basic JD law degree, all 3 combined as the education for Social Worker, plus a support system and their own form of trauma therapy and support for what they work in witness and deal with, every social worker would be 100% fully equipped, to the best possible, with nothing lacking, to do their job to the UTMOST.