I've been really struggling recently because a ton of major things have hit me in quick succession:

• my mom lives in Australia, and is going in for surgery today. If anything happens to her (including god forbid she dies), closed borders mean I will never see her again.

• my best friend in California found that his boyfriend was dead at 42 this week without warning, no cause found, and yes developed panic attacks and is doing badly. His BF was his primary person in his COVID-19 bubble, and I've been trying to help him find resources, plan, cope, etc. since I have a decade of therapy and managing chronic medical things. It's incredibly draining, but the difference I am making is super visible.

• I lost my job due to disability related issues I can't disclose, though related to COVID-19

• my lease will end because my roommates of 7 years are leaving, and I don't feel safe living alone / am overwhelmed trying to figure out where I could move, how to move, which places offer me work, etc.

• Two months ago when ruling out COVID-19 for fatigue / breathing stuff I learned I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and those symptoms were part of dysautonomia. I'm working hard to care for this, but meds are interacting and it's really difficult still to manage and keep adjusting.

I am usually able to manage, but I don't know what I can and can't focus on right now, how to focus enough to deal with any of these, how to make good decisions when in constant low grade crisis mode, etc. Any ideas, personal anecdotes, etc. about managing some of these (esp making major life choices when struggling) would be wonderful.

Just a small note: in general, I prefer suggestions ("X can help you do these things") over direct advice ("Do X, it does these things"). I find this helps us talk about our own knowledge and experience rather than talking over/assuming other's experiences.

Much love. Thank you all even if you just read or skimmed.