Imagine being with someone so despicable that they drain every ounce of dignity from you as they use your body for their darkest, most twisted pleasures….

I’m 42 and a senior executive working in financial technology in London. I have been a Dom for more than 20 years. I don’t enjoy mainstream BDSM. It has become too influenced by Hollywood and the likes of 50 Shades.

I am much more interested in the psychological aspects of it all. Much like you, I don’t have a kink list either. My overall objective is to take a Sub and train her to be unconditionally obedient and willing.

To do that, I focus on building trust. I don’t use safe words. I don’t make unrealistic demands. What I do is to nurture a Sub so that eventually my pleasure becomes more important to her than her own shame, inhibitions and fears. I respect hard limits but take great pleasure in dismantling soft limits. I have a duty of care towards my Sub that I take extremely seriously. This includes abiding by my strict rules and gentle aftercare. Whilst degrading and humiliating my Sub gives me immense pleasure, I am also generous in my praise and affirmation when they make me happy.

I never get angry and lose control of my emotions. That would be a significant failure of who I am. Everything I do is deliberate and calculated with well defined outcomes.

I hate fantasy with a passion. Fantasy is either for those with unrealistic expectations or those too scared to push boundaries.

My Sub has no rights or entitlements. She will not take anything for granted except my commitment to training her. She cannot expect or demand anything. She may request.

If she disobeys,disrespects or disappoints me, I will punish her. Punishment will be disproportionate to the transgression. Refusal to accept the punishment will result in the termination of our arrangement. I will not have my authority undermined.

My interest in my Sub is not limited to the bedroom. Nor is it purely sexual. Limiting it in such a way limits the pleasure and risks boredom. Instead, I will find creative ways to make her submit to me. She must find creative ways to make sure I’m constantly thinking of her. My pleasure is derived from obedience and submission, whatever form it comes in.

I have a process for meeting Subs from Reddit. This process culminates in a face to face meeting. It is non-negotiable. I don’t rush this process. 1. Initial chat on Reddit: We get to know each other. We DONT exchange photos. It is simply not secure. 2. WhatsApp: This is my primary communication method. Here we will swap photos, have calls and message. 3. Meet in person.

In your first message to me I want you to give me a detailed description of your physical appearance and I want you to start your message with the word Blue.