You’ve never thought of me romantically, or much at all. I’m an occasional friend, an acquaintance really. Cute, but older and softer around the edges than you prefer. You like keeping me around because I tend to stroke your ego, and you’re flattered that I so eagerly take your advice.

Now I’m in a relationship, and for some reason that irritates you. Suddenly your ditsy little pal is talking about some other guy, and even setting boundaries with you. You don’t like that. But you don’t know why.

We have drinks after work, and you try to shrug it off. And then you do something you’ve never done before - you invite me back to your place. You’re just as surprised as I am. That’s never happened. I’m trusting by nature, and you’ve never been anything but a big teddy bear toward me. What’s the worst that could happen?

Maybe we settle in to watch a movie. You can tell I’m a bit anxious because how could I possibly explain this to my new partner? You’re surprised at how turned on you are at my nervousness. You offer a drink, and I say no. “Don’t be difficult.” You put a glass in my hand anyway. I take it because I’m stunned by the change in your demeanor.

You place your hand on my thigh. I quickly move it away, blushing. You roll your eyes at me and put it back, squeezing my leg harder this time. You can tell I’m not going to just give in as you expected, and you’re thrilled at the challenge.

So hi! The above is just one example of how things could go. I’m definitely open to different scenarios. I’m happy to fulfill any specific fantasy you have as long as it doesn’t violate any of my own hard limits. Ideally I’m looking for coercion, or a date-gone-wrong type of scenario. Am open to things getting very rough, just a little hesitant for that to happen right out of the gate.

Me: 34, white, 5’8, 175lbs, educated, unmarried, no kids, happy to exchange pictures. I live about an hour from Chicago, but am willing to travel wherever for the right person.

You: bigger and stronger than me is ideal. In this scenario you would overpower me and hopefully be able to throw me around. I would prefer a man who takes very good care of himself and takes pride in his appearance (as I do), but by no means do I require a six pack (or even a two pack lol). I prefer mid 30 to early 40s, but that’s not a hard rule. Be comfortable with being forceful, as I will not be compliant.

Kinks/interests: vaginal and anal sex are both on the table. Breath play, humiliation, impact, begging, coercion, rough oral. I can be a brat in the right scenarios, and I would like to fight back.

Limits: toilet stuff in general, severe humiliation and degradation, public, serious violence

Safety stuff: we will need to talk a few times ahead of the act to iron out details. Video chat to confirm we’re not catfish. Safe words obviously. And aftercare is a must.