Note that I am willing to travel within the range of NYC or D.C. if it's a really worthwhile connection, so if you're not right in Philly but reasonably close I'm still interested in hearing from you.

It seems like most people looking for a CNC interaction want something involving totally physical domination, some form of stalking and assault. That’s all well and good if it’s what you’re into, but it’s not what I’m looking for.

I’m looking for a woman whose fantasy revolves around some form of non-physical coercion. Here’s an example of the type of scenario I find exciting:

I’m someone you know through work, or mutual friends, or maybe I’m a friend of a family member or even your boyfriend or husband. You’ve got a secret side that no one knows about, a side of you that loves being naughty online, and you’ve gotten so daring about it that through sheer chance I’ve discovered your profile and realized it’s you - maybe it’s just a reddit account, maybe it’s even something like an OnlyFans page. I now have a collection of very interesting photos, maybe even videos of you. I start revealing to you just how much I have, and as you beg me more and more not to show this to anyone, I start making demands…

There are many different variations of this kind of idea. Maybe I found out about an affair you’ve been having and threaten to reveal everything to your man. Maybe I have some kind of professional connection to you and I’ve discovered something that could not just get you fired but potentially legally incriminate you. Depending on how much you want to get into outright fantasy and how deeply you want to/can immerse yourself in a roleplay, I’m also into more unrealistic scenarios like forms of mind control - perhaps an unethical hypnotherapist relationship, for example.

About me: I am clean and in shape, and I ask that you be the same. I don’t look like a model and I’m not asking for you to, but I’m not interested in making connections with someone who doesn’t take care of herself. I have a thick dark beard with some specs of gray, so if you're not into guys with facial hair I'm not for you. I have a stable job and a place of my own, but I do have roommates so I'll prefer we make other arrangements. If you’d like a more comprehensive idea of everything I’m into, there’s a kink list posted on my profile that you can check out.

I’m not too worried about whatever your particular life situation is, and you can be very up front with me about whatever it is that you want out of this; there’s nothing you can tell me that I would judge you for, and if our interests don’t align properly I’d rather we find that out right away.

When we first connect, I’d like to start by simply chatting to find out if we are on the same page and have chemistry, and I find reddit’s inbox an annoying way to try to have a conversation, so I would strongly prefer to use reddit chat or take it somewhere else like Discord. I certainly don’t mind getting an initial message any particular way you’d like to send it, though.

If you do think we might be a good match, please send me a message with some details about yourself and what caught your interest. I’m a lot less likely to respond to messages like “hey saw your post and I’m interested” because it’ll be hard for me to believe you’re really serious.