I'm looking for someone literate that is more interested in the mental aspect of kink and domination. Someone that wishes it goes further than some rough sex or a bit of name calling and explore some darker themes. The ones that are looking for a feeling of dread and fear when the mobile phone shows a new notification.

I'm the kind of person that wants to take you on an emotional rollercoaster. A mix of sweet and caring but picking every word you say apart. Never knowing which direction the conversation will go or what kind of reaction you will get from the most well meaning and kind good morning message. I want you to be on edge, nervous and anxious but with a lot of warmth as well.

My interest has always been more drawn to the psychological side of kink. To be able to get inside the mind of someone and being able to overpower them mentally, break them down and change their behaviour. I'm also a sadist so when it comes to the psychological side there is an allure of the more darker themes mentioned in the title of my post.

The idea of what methods to use to break someone down, gaslighting them into questioning their own memories and experiences. Using different ways to get to know them and use information to mindfuck them.

Emotional sadism is rarely talked about, it is so much focus on the physical pain but to me the appeal of the emotional pain has always been so much bigger. There are so many different starting points which is also interesting to me. Women that are living the "dream life" with a husband and family but are dreadfully bored and dream of some excitement in the form of someone picking their perfect little life apart. Maybe the girls that want to lose that control and be obsessed over, perhaps life has always been a bit too kind and the idea of the darkness is their obsession. I've always been interested in what makes people act the way they do, why they want this kind of pain. Why are you even reading this post and think of writing me to explore the themes further?

Is it the loss of control that you're intrigued by? To not understand the blur between reality and what someone tells you is the truth? Are you mentally strong and the idea of being broken and changed sounds appealing to you? Have you experienced trauma before and look for certain types of kicks to get the feeling of being alive again? Is there something fascinating about how a man like me works, a man that says he enjoys hurting people not just physically but gets turned on by hurting your mind and not just your body?

If you find my post aligns with thoughts that you have I look forward to your message.

ps: I am married, therefore; this will be discreet.