Hello! Thanks for checking out my post. I had a lot of great conversations from my last one but nothing specific panned out just yet so I figured I'd post again, this time with a lot more detail about what I'm hoping to find. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to message me and chat me up, it helped me to figure out what I'm looking for and I hope to convey that better this time around.

Small details about me: I'm 31, just moved to Montreal in July. Recently finished my undergrad (psychology) and am still toying with the idea of going to grad school (I wasn't accepted this year). I'm an extreme introvert, socially anxious, shy. I have several tattoos and some piercings too. I'm 5'5, around 150lbs, brown hair blue eyes. Pretty much a couch potato besides walking my dog occasionally. I play a lot of video games and watch a lot of tv/anime/the occasional movie. I'm also polyamorous and live with my two partners.

Alright, on to what I'm looking for- so, CNC is my main kink by far, when I think about sex it's basically the only thing I think about. I have very little motivation towards or interest in vanilla sex most days. To that end, I'd like to find a FWB situation where I can explore and fulfill my need for CNC. Emphasis on the friend part of this arrangement. I'm not looking for a serious romantic relationship, but I do want to be able to hang out, laugh, eat food together- not just meet up and fuck. Similarly, I'm not looking to chat a little and set up a scene right away. I'd like to hang out and let things develop naturally. I'm searching on here specifically because I want to find someone who's equally into CNC as I am. It's happened before that I met someone and hit it off but they simply were not keen on CNC whatsoever. If you have previous CNC experience that's a bonus, too, but not expressly required so long as you have a genuine personal interest in it.

To be more specific about what kind of CNC I'm looking for- I really have no interest in freeuse or anything similar. I have specific likes and dislikes and I prefer our interactions to take place generally within the bounds of my comfort (something we can figure out through conversation and communication beforehand). CNC to me is all about struggle and fighting. I enjoy trying to escape, run away, push you off, etc. I'm not a masochist so I don't enjoy pain for its own sake, but I can accept it as an inevitable side effect of fighting so long as we keep it within reasonable levels. I like being teased in a gentle way (i.e. I don't like being harshly insulted but I like being condescended to or gently made fun of). I enjoy dacryphilia, someone laughing while I cry would be a plus. I don't want to feel like you actively disdain or hate me, but being looked down on and laughed at is good.

When first getting to know someone I'm very shy and reserved but I'd love to be able to explore my bratty side over time after we develop trust and comfort with each other. Not looking to be submissive, owned, or controlled. Being taught a lesson (specifically in response to bratty behaviour) is fine, but I don't want to be broken or trained.

I think that it's essential to have some non-CNC sexual exploration (in addition to friendly hanging out) in order to work up the trust and familiarity required for such a complex kink.

What I'm hoping you to be: my age or older is preferred, I will consider younger if your introduction catches my eye but no promises. Someone who lives in Montreal- because of the time investment and my desire to be friends outside the bedroom, it's best if you live here, although I will consider people who visit regularly from out of town, but things will only progress as quickly as much as we can hang out on a regular basis. Emotionally intelligent and communicative- I'm shy and tend to clam up when I get embarrassed, but I'm able to articulate myself and what I want when I need to, I expect the same from you. Open honesty is a must, even if something is difficult or awkward. Safe sex practices are also a must. Due to my social anxiety I have a great amount of difficulty meeting people IRL, although I'm trying so hard to overcome this. I very much appreciate partners who are firm, confident, and easygoing. You'll need to be persistent and encouraging with me, but if you're pushy, entitled, impatient, or other such red flags, you'll likely never see me again.

If this sounds like you and something you'd be interested in, feel free to message me. If you did before and I didn't respond, you can message again, I got kinda overwhelmed last time so if you're seeing this that means you're not blocked and you're free to try again. Please send a detailed introduction if you're going to send something at all, I automatically delete low effort "hey"s. Having a picture in your message moves you to the top of the list, I think it's important to assess physical attraction early on so we aren't wasting each other's time. You can also tell me your favorite food in your intro so I know you have good reading comprehension, lol. I should probably put more info at the end here to hide that last little bit for the skim-readers but I'm not sure what to write. Hopefully their eyes glazed over these sentences too. Thanks for reading and I'm hoping to hear from you soon!