What is R4R

R4R is an acronym for Redditor For Redditor. This has been an ongoing thing on reddit for many years, mainly with the general broad subreddit /r/r4r except many major locations/cities have their own localized r4r postings for easier local means of meeting people nearby.

Posting an R4R ad

Why post an ad? There can be many reasons to post an r4r ad. Maybe you had a friend bail on you for a concert and are looking for a quick fill-in so that ticket doesn't go to waste, or you really want to attend an upcoming event, but have nobody to do it with. You can always create a post and be specific about what you're wanting and you may be surprised and make a great long term friend! Others might just be lonely and looking for meeting like-minded people to engage in a relationship for either long term or short term.

Many people create new accounts to post ads, so if things don't pan out with someone, they can continue to use their main account without it giving people a means of contacting them if things don't pan out or if people are weird with it, which is fine. There are no rules about new accounts making posts.

Even if you don't get a reply right away, r4r ads are generally browsed and searched many days later as not everyone is there to browse the subreddit right away or many don't feel the need to browse until one day something makes them seek a friend or a partner, so don't get discouraged and remove a post! Only remove your post if you aren't interested in what the ad is seeking anymore because it is fulfilled/lost interest.

Replying to an ad

It's 100% recommended you send a PM directly to the person who created the ad. You can provide more in-depth information and ask questions and take it from there. Replying to an ad as a comment with such things may lead to removal of the comment as discussing publicly really isn't intended. So please keep interests to private messages only! Replying to an ad with a reddit history can give the posters a general idea of who you are, but that is completely up to you on how you'd like to approach the person and if you'd rather remain anonymous during the meeting stages.

Upvoting and Downvoting

For any r4r, the upvotes/downvotes don't really mean much. Most people will sort by new, as that's the only real way it should be viewed. People upvote and downvote a post, and not everyone is interested in the same things, so if you get downvoted, please don't be discouraged as people will still view your ad and private message you directly!

User Based Community Flair

Every Charlotte community should have it's own flair. It isn't required, purely optional as a way to give others a general idea of what part of the city (or surrounding city) you are from. You can select it on the right side under: Show my flair on this subreddit. There should be an edit button to add it (or if you're on a mobile app, however that app has it setup.) If you don't see your community or have a close by community outside of Charlotte you want added, feel free to message a moderator.