i’m sure people bring this up on here a lot, and i hope it’s not annoying! i’m 23F Black Caribbean and just moved back to the city after living in London and Providence, RI before that. i’m well educated, well traveled, and i think pretty interesting (maybe thats a bad thing to say, unsure). i genuinely care about people, put everything into my relationships (friends and familial), my career, and my own personal health (mental, physical, and cultivating my passions). other specs include: 5’7” athletic build, but definitely curvy, short ish curly hair naturally but wear it a lot of ways 🤷🏽‍♀️

that said, i have never had much success on dating apps. basically, i want to know how much race matters to people and how to mitigate the negative effect my race seems to have on my relative “popularity” or “eligibility” on bumble. do folks think Black women should be doing something different to find someone? i’m genuinely not sure and know i’m attractive (obviously not to everyone!) and at the very least have a lot to offer. so yeah. advice appreciated and happy to answer any specifics.

i’m almost a year and a half out of my last relationship and i’m finally confident enough to say i’m ready for something real and meaningful. but it’s hard in general, and as a Black woman especially. definitely don’t want to feel defeated or “give up”. do people have any advice?