I would love to hear from bulls who control a couple's sexual interactions? I am specifically interested in how to leverage that aspect of the lifestyle into a stronger overall dynamic. We are considering it with a relatively new bull and encouraged to do some research before making a commitment.

My wife (31) and I (35) are diving deeper into the cuckold lifestyle with a dominant bull after dabbling in the lifestyle for years. You can see in our post history some bits and pieces leading up to this question. One thing to consider is that we have full-time jobs, kids, and other family obligations. So any control exercised would need to be within those boundaries. She plans to keep playing about weekly, sometimes skipping a week depending on what is going on in our lives.

1.) Do you control the couple's sex life completely? Seems like this would take a lot of trust, but letting go could be very positive.

2.) Do you establish a structure? Is it more permission-based? We are concerned about the need to check in too much.

3.) Is it helpful to exclude certain sex acts entirely? Do you eliminate sex? No PIV commitment is something we discussed, but we are not sure about it at this point.

4.) How do you handle issues that come up? Do you talk regularly in an open forum about how it's going?

5.) What factors have been critical to sustaining this level of control for more than a year?

P.S. We are not looking for play partners.